Finding the Spark

As you can see, I'm new to this. Just joined so that I can vent. I want to be able to totally be myself and express what I feel and how I feel. At the present time I don't have too much to vent even though there is a lot going on. My husband and I must have hit the seven year itch or something b/c things aren't the best between us, but we are working on it. We have lost that spark and amidst raising toddlers, working, and committments to the church I need to feel connected to him. I need our spark back! We are going away this weekend on a Christian retreat weekend with Q & S so hopefully that will help us. We will be going back to a place that S and I took our husbands on a surprise Valentine's weekend. We planned the whole trip and even packed for them without them knowing a thing. We told them we were going to dinner and actually drove for like 4 hours before reaching Helen, GA. It was a great weekend, very romantic. However, that was also before kids. Sometimes it gets hard not getting lost being more of a mother than a wife. I guess I need to find a better balance. Here lately I've been blaming it all on him, but I guess I'm to blame as well. Last night I tried. All four of us had a candlelite dinner. We drank our tea and coke out of wine glasses. My oldest daughter got a special glass that looked like Mommy and Daddy's as well. She thought she was so big.